Dear Abe: I am a gay man who lives in a mostly straight society. About a year ago, a married couple moved. One day, the husband asked me to come and help him put a table together. Thank you for opening a bottle of wine. Then he asked me what runs me. I thought the question was unusual, but I did not retreat – I showed it.
We have faced more meetings since then, and now I feel use and think about telling his wife. I think she deserves to know that her husband may be gay and sleep with other men. I used some “gay language” that makes me think I may not be the only one.
I heard that there are some other neighbors who talk badly about gay, and did not defend or take us. This bother me too. What do I do? They live on a few doors, and it is uncomfortable when I see him and his wife. She always waves and she is a sweet lady. – Reflection on Florida
Dear rethink: Your mistake was involved with a married man. You may feel “used”, but remember that you went to this issue enthusiastically. I don't think you should be the person who told his wife that her husband may be gay. (The dual sex can be.) The person who delivers this Titbit should be her husband, if she does not already know. As for you, it's time to get out of the picture, don't you think that?
Dear AbeI am a 47 -year -old woman who passes in the early thirties. I understand that most women will pay money to look younger than their age, but people often make an annoying sound assumption of me.
I never felt that people took me seriously despite my main degree and work that I started with three sites. For years, I suffered from a fixed and non -sensitive barrage of questions and assumptions about the reproductive states. I got a very skill in the face of “When will you have children?” With “God did not give me that great power, so my husband and parents who enjoy going to adventures.”
I am now exceeding menopause. Although I am eating medications to control symptoms, I often suffer from a hot flash at work while meeting with customers. I keep a paper fan in my office, but I get a funny appearance from customers when I hold it and start getting rid of my sudden red face and sweat.
I usually smile and ask a minute to recover from the hot flash, but I definitely tell me that I am “very small” to have hot flashes. If only it is true. My instinct is to confront the matter, “Well, my doctor will differ”, but this does not seem friendly. What do you recommend as a suitable response? -Young people in Missouri
Dear youth: When you are told that you are “younger than going through menopause”, instead of Al -Zamari, try Smile And say, “Say that to my doctor!” You will transmit the message without being a confrontation.
People may not realize that menopause was known to hit the youngest women.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
