Dear AbeBoth my parents somewitly died – three years ago for my father and about two for my mother. They are buried in the city where I live. All other relatives of their generation were also given.
I put artificial flowers on their graves, but I rarely exceed there, and my children and grandchildren are not visiting them. They have their memories of the time he spends with my father, as my husband and I did as I plan to achieve burning and feel our ashes.
I put flowers because I want people to know that I respect my parents, but I often forget to change them seasonally, which seems worse than not decorating them at all. I would like to stop, and I need to persuade myself, it is fine. Is the grave decorating something generations, and is the trend not to do this on this day and this era? – Dangerous questions in Western Virginia
Dangerous questions, dear: Let me express my sympathy for your parents ’loss. Decorating the grave is a personal choice. Some individuals and families do this on the birthday of their deceased loved ones; Others do this on the anniversary of death.
Time to show affection and respect for our loved ones is While they live. If you do, you will not have what you apologize for making a decision to expand its scope or stop completely.
Dear AbeMy wife and I am the retired elderly. We live in a beautiful two -storey house 14 years ago. At that time, we thought it would be our last house, but in my opinion, it no longer meets our needs. I want to move and reduce its size. The problem is that my wife does not.
For 50 years of our marriage, we lived in four houses, and every time I wanted to move, you did not. It becomes emotionally connected to a house. She has made it clear to her that we need a one -storey house or an apartment closer to our children, who live all over the city.
Just bring the topic very bothering it. I think I will die before you do. Peace be upon me, knowing that after my funeral, you will return home and do not face many problems.
When I die, they want our children to come close. It will then have to coordinate and deal with the step on its own – a huge function even with the help of our signs. I can easily take over the position I will go, so what I care about, but I care.
I looked for our entire marriage, and I would like to finish the mission. advice? –– Ohio's husband's hero
Dear husband's heroI have some. Your message was signed by the “husband of the hero”, but didn't that happen to you in your enthusiasm to care for your wife and protect her, as you may have found her? Her feelings on this topic must be respected.
Many widows (it may be the case, many years before it becomes one unless he dies first) finds the strength and resourcefulness that they have not yet known after the death of their husbands. What happens to this house should be a family decision, not alone.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
