Dear Abe: I recently contacted with a workshop. We were friendly, but not what I really call friends. We have returned to social media and have had lunch several times. The problem is that it has become a very negative and aggressive person. S
Our time is beating, former colleagues and every professional in the service you faced. She refuses to stop talking about politics even though I made it clear that I am not comfortable with it.
The first lunch was bad, but I thought I would give him another snapshot. The second lunch was worse, and I decided that I would not communicate or make plans again. Then I made a comment that made me feel a tendency to try to hold a friendship with her. She said she did not have many friends.
Lunch or three lunchs later, I am just Not possible Keep doing that. I try to rid myself of negative effects, some of them family members, and I do not need to continue spending time with this individual. If she continues again, do I have to continue making excuses in order to get a hint, or should I be honest? I am somewhat afraid of this because seeing the way people hit, and I know that it will work to hit me for other people we know, and I can do without it. – Mistake in North Carolina
Dear mistake: There is no reason to be unpleasant for this troubled woman. Start busy when you call you. If it underestimates you by saying something like, “If your schedule is very full this month, what about next month?” Take an appointment with her. If you start hitting others, stop it. Smile and say, “Let's talk about something else. Something attractiveThen continue to be less available for a longer period of time.
Dear Abe: My wife puts with me, and I adore her for that. I have my challenges. She participated in a car accident 15 years ago and suffered from a number of long -term injuries from it. I can do most of what I want physically, but not everything. I have taken medications for the remaining brain issues of the accident and can be angry without a great warning.
I have received family and individual family therapy. I exercise, contemplate (but not much should), and I eat medications to keep me stable and I have reminders in different places about what I should do and not do.
I buy my wife regularly and often remain fun. I also take care of our special needs. What are the other things that you suggest to do to help her know that I adore her? – Lucky man in Florida
Dear lucky man: Your wife may already know. But if you apologize when you fly from the handle, show affection, and tell her every day how much you like and how much you share in your life, you will transfer the message you want to deliver.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby at www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
