Dear Abe: My friend invites me for dinner a lot, and I continue to come up with mysterious excuses about the reason for my inability to come. The reasonable reason is the healthy kitchen health. The refrigerator always contains old food and spill, kitchen and crowds are full of dirty dishes and residue. Do not wash her hands before cooking, too.
She helped her clean her kitchen several times while visiting, believing that she might have needed instructions, but her old habits are committed. It is an embarrassing and inappropriate feeling to tell it about the reason for my continuous abolition. How can you follow? – A friend in sticky mode
Dear friend: You will not change it. The way to deal with this will be to invite you to your place for dinner, or agree to eat your meals in a restaurant or bring its place to its place.
Dear Abe: I have recently separated, and my divorce will be permanently. I met a woman who did not even know that it could exist. It is perfect for me. The problem is that she lives an hour and a half away and cannot drive at night due to a medical condition.
She fell for her, and he is mutual. Issues are the distance and the fact that her father has just died. She is a widow who lives with her poisonous mother. We both want to do this, but it needs time and space. I am ready to give her because I think she deserves it completely.
This is the second serious relationship in my life. My ex -wife and I have been together for decades, but among other bad things, she deceived me. I wonder if you have some tips for me. This new woman is the real “unicorn”. I will do anything for her. I want to be with her, and she says the same thing, but although her mother is toxic, she does not want to leave her and the bad situation in which she is located.
It is early, and I know, but I am ready to wait. We have a lot of common denominators. I did not ask for anything except time and space, but I am nearly 40 years old. (It is a little older.) I am very ignorant of relationships. I am afraid and excited. We want to be a family with a house. Please help me here. – Confused to South Carolina
Dear confusion: You need to call enough patience for all this to play. I am still married, frankly, you need time to restore your balance after a bad marriage. Although I am sure that “Unicorn” is a very special woman, she needs time to grieve for her father's death and decide whether she wants to live away from her mother – who is facing – may always be part of the package deal.
Happiness and excitement are drunk. Do not act stealing. Take this very slowly. These long and uncomfortable engines may help you get a perspective. Over time, if this is true as you hope for it, you will have a happy end that you hope for.
To my Muslim readers: In Sundown, it's time to break the fast Ramadan. Eid al -Fitr, everyone. – Love, Abe
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby at www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
