Dear Abe: My brother has just engaged to the “The The worst in all ages). It was dating back for two and a half years, and no one in the family had anything good to say about it. In the past, he has always had stable relationships with the girls we really enjoyed. But now he grows up, and his friends are engaged and seems to be pressure and feel pressure. They always argue, and the things he never did before he is doing now – multiple changes in jobs, saving less time for family, etc.
Everyone believes that, as my older brother, I must be the person who expresses our concerns about it. Will it be very difficult to tell him that it is a bad idea? I would have said that I supported him if he could find three characteristics to recover it because no of us could find one. – I don't like it in the East
Dear, not a fan: I do not think that telling your brother participating recently that his fiancée is “the worst in all ages” and no one in the family can find any recovery characteristics. However, I think that as the oldest brother, you can indicate that you are concerned because this woman is a lot, which is why you suggest that you seek to advise before marriage to get rid of any line problems. Then through your fingers that follow.
Dear Abe: Although we live just an hour away and we would like to celebrate holidays with my elderly father, they prefer to spend them with their friends. This started when my family lived 14 hours. We used to return to the house either for the feast of thanks or Christmas every year. If we are not at home, my parents met with a group of friends who are not children. This has succeeded in a wonderful way – they were not alone, and I did not feel guilty.
We moved to the house three years ago, primarily to be near the family again.
However, my parents spend all the main holidays with their comrades, even if my family is at home alone. Then my mother asks me to host an alternative vacation so that the family can gather. Last year, I tried to talk to her. I said it is painful to choose a vacation with her friends and asked her to look at the family’s plans first. But she was close to her old tricks. I am 53 years old, but I still want my mother and father. What should I do? – The needy in Massachusetts
Dear needy: Since “Speaking” with your mother has not succeeded, it is time to start developing other plans to spend the main holidays.
You are only at home as you want. You and your husband can travel or join a local group and do some volunteer for those who are less fortunate in your community.
It is time to remove a page from your mother's play and do what you did, which is to announce some independence from it.
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