Dear Abe: My wife and I went to our annual examination seven months ago. We were both overweight and our doctors told us that we needed some lifestyle changes to improve our health. Since that time, I have made the necessary changes. As a result, I lost 40 pounds, and all my vitality in a healthy range.
My wife did not make any changes. There was no weight loss, and they have to take medications for some cases. While she made sacrifices, she made excuses. I love her dearly, but I am very frustrated. I was positive and encouraging, but it doesn't seem to help.
We are both in an era in which we need to take our health seriously. This is not about appearance or appearance; It is related to health. I really want us to live a long and healthy life together. If there is any advice you can give, I am open to hear it. – Experienced in Indiana
Dear Tribute: Unlike the modeling of healthy exercises and eating habits for your wife, there is nothing you can do to force her to get out of the path you are doing. Changing a person's lifestyle (or not) is a personal choice. The motivation should come from the inside, and it should be determined to make the effort. Her doctor, not you, should discuss these changes with her and the reasons for that. Even small changes can make a big difference.
Dear Abe: I have a 7 -year -old grandfather, Emma. It is beautiful, smart, happy and wonderful. Her father, my grandfather, and her mother are no longer together, but they share the nursery. My grandson since then arrived with Mama's child No. 2 and has two other children with her.
Emma's life was not the easiest due to fighting and disputes. Her mother is also with another man and has other children. Her mother's friend is not nice with Emma. My grandson tries to get a full nursery for her.
Emma bright and smart. I would like to talk to her about independence and not depending on any man to support her. I know on the seventh that it is still very small so that it does not understand it. What is a good age to teach her independence and how to provide themselves, and instead of “need” for a man, it is better to be with someone without relying on him? – Her JG in Colorado
Dear “Ji”: This is not a one -time lesson trying to transfer it. It is a lifelong process. The first thing you should do is to become a role model for Emma. It is exposed to books and videos of independent women, building professions and living for themselves instead of relying on a man. Then he taught her self -esteem. If you do this, these lessons you will take with them in adulthood.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
