Dear Abe: I am a 48 -year -old woman. When I was 17 years old, I connected this man who was part of my friends group. I knew he was crushing me, so I decided to have sex with him in his car. This does not mean anything to me, but everything for him.
He tried to reach me over the years. If you are married, he was single. After the death of my first husband, I met him shortly. I think I shouldn't do it. I asked him if he wanted history, but he was married. (His marriage did not last long.) Then it was upset that I met a great man and I was dating.
This wonderful man and I am married now, and link my old high school clear. He declares his love for me and insists that I leave my husband to him. I will not do that. Is the fact that he is still in love with me after 30 years of romantic or creeping? – I got history in Texas
Dear I got the date: It seems that linking the old high school has not been emotionally growing since those days. What is going on in his head is not romantic; It is not respected. His unwillingness or inability to move forward in his life is somewhat creeping. Say that when you tell him to leave you and your husband's disturbance and continue his life. After that, if necessary, prevent it.
Dear Abe: My son and daughter gave birth to their first child three months ago. This was the first grandson on both sides. Her mother remained with her for two weeks after a cesarean delivery. I have no problems with that.
My problem is, my son told me that I need to leave when they returned and the child home from the hospital. Consider, live 6 1/2 hours. I fought for at least three days when they arrived at home. Then he said I need to leave, but he never told his wife's father to leave. Also, in the days I stayed, they asked me to get a motel while her parents stayed with them. I only got to go during the day.
When I told my son that my feelings were injured, he said I was a drama queen. You respected everything they asked. I just want to know if I am wrong in sharing my feelings or should stay calm. It has caused friction between us now. – Of the second degree in Tennessee
Dear Second Class: This situation is not about you. It relates to a completely new child and adapts to paternity. You may have become very strong and expected when I said what you did. Your wife was recovering from surgery after her first child and needed her the mom, It is not her mother -in -law. Her father may have been part of the package deal. This is not a competition, and if you make it one, you will become less welcome than you are now.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
