Boys need role models, not gaming and porn

Sir Gareth Southgate says he is afraid that young people will spend a lot of time in games, gambling and watching pornography – and they need a better role model behind the online influencers.

In a broad interview with the BBC's annual Richard Dembbelli lecture, the former football manager talked about his tried his own experience in losing a decisive penalty in Euro 96, saying that he had not been allowed to define him.

He said: “This pain is still chasing me today, and I think it will always do it.”

In reference to his own experiences, he said that the UK needs to make more effort to encourage young people – especially young people – to make the right options in life and not to be afraid of failure.

Instead of switching to teachers, athletes, or the leaders of the youth group, Sir Gareth said he feared that many young people were looking for the direction online. There, he said they were finding a new kind of roles, which he had often had no interests.

“These are harsh, manipulative, and homosexual effects, they are their only engine to make their own gains,” he said.

“They are deceiving young people who are good at the belief that success is measured by money or hegemony, and that strength means not to show feelings, and that the world, including women, is against them.”

Sir Gareth talked about the loss of the decisive punishment in the semi -finals of the euro 1996, when England lost to Germany.

Sir Gareth said in the lecture: “On the lost people, this punishment was undoubtedly a separate moment that made me stronger, a better man.” “He forced me to a deep pits, and revealed an internal belief and flexibility that I never knew.”

He fell out of his beauty with a successful Eric Deir penalty kick against Colombia in 2018, when she won with Sir Gareth as a manager – in England at a World Cup penalty for the first time.

During the 22 -year -old, he said there was a change in the mentality between England players.

“In 1996, I had walked 30 yards to the penalty spot, believing that I would miss,” he said. “In 2018, Erik walked 30 yards to the penalty spot, believing that he would score.”

During the Sir Gareth career as a defender and midfielder, he played with Crystal Palace, Aston Villa, Middlesbrough and was in the England squad between 1995 and 2004. He took over as director in 2016 and led the team to the 2018 World Cup, Quarternal Cup-FINALS and EURO in 2020.

Relaxed as director in JulyTwo days after England lost to Spain in the euro.

Sir Gareth was credited with revitalizing the England team and was a knight in the first year of the king in December.

He is the latest in a group of academics, business leaders and other prominent personalities to give Richard Dembepe lecture, which has been held most years since 1972 on the announcement of the broadcaster.

Among the former speakers are King Charles III, when the Prince of Wales, the technology businessman and the benefactor Bill Gates, Christine Lagarde, then the Administrative Director of the International Monetary Fund (IMF).

Sir Gareth's talk focused on the importance of belief and flexibility for young people, and pointed to three things required to build this: identity, communication and culture.

He referred to a report, Issued earlier this month by the Social Justice CenterAnd who said that the boys and youth were “in a crisis”, with an “amazing” increase in those who are not in education, employment or training.

“Many young people are isolated,” Sir Gareth said in his speech. “Many people feel uncomfortable openness to friends or family. Many mentors – teachers, trainers and presidents – who understand the best way to push them to grow. Thus, when they struggle, young people inevitably try to deal with any situation they find themselves, alone.”

He added: “The young men end up withdrawal, or they hesitate to speak or express their emotions.” “They spend more time search online for the direction and are in unhealthy alternatives such as games, gambling and pornography.”

He also said that young people do not get enough opportunities to fail and learn from their mistakes.

“In my opinion, if we make life very easy for young children now, we will make life more difficult when they grow up to be young men,” he said. “Many young people are subject to fear, specifically because they have few opportunities to experience and overcome them. They fail to try, rather than trying and failing.”

The former football player was also reflected in what his professional life taught about belief and flexibility.

“If I learn anything from my life in football, this success is much more than the end result,” he said. “The real success is how to respond in the most difficult moments.”

Richard Dembepe lecture is broadcast with Sir Gareth Southgate at 10.40 pm at BBC One Available on iPlayer now