Full steam forward?
Verification tends to get bad rap music, given that it is associated with anger and negative energy. But mental health experts believe it is also necessary – as long as it is done correctly.
“The venting is what I call giving up steam, because, by definition, it is the term physics where you have pressure in a system, so I left it,” said the psychiatrist of Dr. Godth Jones to the newspaper.
“The problem with just venting on its own is that, yes, it is a good feeling immediately, but it does not create solutions. Also, when you vent to the wrong person, you only transfer tension to another individual.”
For this reason, in her new book, “High Performance”, a simple fraud paper – a venting manual, if you will – that determines “what he does not do.”
Ask first
She said, “When you are vent, you want to request approval.”
This means that there is no ambush for Parista, your dog Walker, or a work colleague who made a mistake in the question, “How are you?”
Do not emotion emotion
Dr. Judith warns of what you call the behavior of “Chop-A Dump”-emptying your emotional luggage without verifying whether the other person can actually deal with him.
Do not burden your children
She said: “You want to take into account the hierarchy of power, so you don't necessarily want to vent to the people who are considered in a dynamic less than you.”
This includes your children, even if they say they want to help.
“Your children will listen to you, but they will be worried about you when you leave the room,” she said.
She added, “Even if they said,” Oh, I want to hear you, “” They may want to feel near you, but what you do is that you create their stress because they are worried about you. “
Or your employees …
Even if you are friends, it is important to keep in mind that there is a strong hierarchy there too.
She pointed out that “you do not necessarily want to put the shock of the employees because they have to respond to you. They do not want to shoot by the president.”
Check yourself before you destroy another person
“You want to make sure that you are in a state not only separated and tell everyone about your work,” Dr. Judith advised.
“You want to think if you are organized or not, at that moment.”
Do you try to settle first?
In other words, take a rhythm. Breathe. Go on a picnic. He shouted in a pillow. Everything that helps.
“You may want to do some grounding techniques in my book before choosing a person or two you can trust,” she said.
So yes, the complaint can be monthly, but like a good spa day, venting should come with safety protocols.
Your pressure is not toxic – until it passes it.
