Dear AbeI have an old friend who lives after an hour. I visit it for today and go home. I never invited her to spend the night in my house, and I do not expect her to invite me to sleep when I lead her to see her.
At the last time she visited, she reached nine o'clock, she assumed that she came early because she wanted to spend the entire day. I expected to sit and speak all day. She refused to do anything except eating and speaking. I am not an incubator, and I hated doing this, but she is a good girlfriend, so I dealt with her. Either way, around 5 pm, she went to her car and brought luggage expecting the night. Then we ended up staying awake until midnight so that you can speak more.
How can I tell her that I prefer to go home at the end of the day? She saw psychiatrists for 50 years. It seems that it only goes to speak. She is also afraid of everything and has no hobbies or other interests. What can I do to put an end to her unnecessary stays overnight without hurting her or risking by sending her to collapse? – Step lightly in the West
My dear: You are not responsible for the mental health of this woman, and it should not be. It seems that she was using you as a supplementary (unpaid). The next time you want to come to another session of the marathon talk, tell her that you like to see her about one in the afternoon but you will not be able to have it.
Dear AbeI am a 43 -year -old woman who is unable to have children. As it is difficult, I have sisters, friends and mother from the wonderful mothers, and I look forward to celebrating them on Mother's Day. However, every year on Mother's Day, I wrestle. Strangers assume that I am a mother, and that the family compensates for the fact that I am not one. I was told, “Thank you,” and jewelry and flowers were given in restaurants because strangers assume that I am my mother. My family gave me “great aunt” gifts to celebrate this occasion.
I haven't discussed my fertility conflicts with anyone because they are very difficult and painful. Although I understand and appreciate everyone's kindness, I suffer from how to transfer that I am fine with no recognition. I feel cruel to have to disclose my medical diagnosis of others in order to leave it alone on a vacation that has nothing to do with it. How do I ask people to leave me alone? Never my mother in New York
Dear mom, my motherYou are not the only person who faces this problem every day. You don't have to convey the message orally, which may be frequent and painful for you. Go to the Internet and find the buttons that carry a “child -free” message. When I looked, I was surprised by the available diversity.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
