Dear Abe: I received a message on Facebook from my first cousin. In this, I apologized for not communicating during the past ten months. It is over, “Send your address so that I can send a birth advertisement for you.” Abe, I did not even realize that she was pregnant.
Her father, who said the child was born two months ago. This is his cousin is not in adolescence or unmarried. It is professional and married.
I am confused, not only because I was not told, but mainly because her message did not announce birth, unlike the indication that the advertisement will be sent by mail.
Frankly, I am confused and not interested in pretending to be sudden attention in a position that was excluded from his knowledge.
I can only assume that the purpose of the messenger advertisement is to seize gifts, months after the child's arrival. Your thoughts? – He left in the dark
Dear left: You know heaven only what may happen with your cousin. There may be a lot for this story more than the fact that you are “excluded”.
Perhaps there have been problems carrying your cousin or with her child, whose relatives were reluctant to participate. Please do not start a grudge unless you have facts indicating otherwise.
Act appropriately, send something small for this child, along with a supportive message, and you will get fewer.
Dear Abe: My younger son, 27, was clean and sober for two years, after he survived the terrible addiction of the fentanel. Its nurse helped return to health. It was not easy, but he is alive today.
However, with this sobriety, a new person who criticizes and fades with his brothers and his brothers appear.
He finds defects in all of us to “disgust him”, and therefore, he chose to deal with us.
He claims to say “his truth” and “righteousness or error” only exists for him anymore. He has no problem to harm our feelings because that is “our problem” and that “it will not meet the rules of society anymore.”
I came to him from a place of love and acceptance, and I tell him this all the time. Tell me that I am an illusion and live a lie.
I don't know what to do or say anymore. He is ready to stay away from our family if we cannot reach the place of “mutual understanding”, which is its way.
I am about to get away from him because I am tired of screaming and putting it on everyone. What should I do? – My mother is disappointed in Minnesota
Dear mom: Is it possible for your son to join a kind of worship -like programs? His treatment for you and his brothers is neither natural nor acceptable.
If you prefer to save yourself with heart pain and end its verbal use, you have the right to stay away from yourself until it comes out.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby at Dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
