Dear Abe: My husband and I have completely different approaches to social media; It's all, and I'm outside. I do not “do” the Internet. I do not have Facebook, Instagram, X and Snapchat and anything else that people use these days. She left the use of social media five years ago when I realized how much contributed to stress. It helped me leave it greatly.
My problem is that my husband is on that throughout the day, every day, which is “Doomscrolls”, which can make any bad mood is worse. This is so frightening, but my real complaint is that he is constantly trying to interact. He wants to show me the posts or read it to me and expects me to participate in his bad mood. How do I stop him? I told him before that I do not want to hear that, and if I do so, I will have an account myself. – Not connected to Michigan
Dear, not connected: The next time your husband does this, ask him if he realizes his impact badly. Tell him that you are not dismantled by social media because you realized that it was not good for you emotionally or physically. (It is known that exciting news causes high blood pressure). Then do that.
Dear Abe: My brother and wife married 22 years ago. It was always the breadwinner. She stayed at home with her three children, making them possible for them to raise a family. He continued his career, which included a lot of travel. My sister and “the heart to the heart” had for the first time about whether this was a good arrangement because he left her weak, but she was sure that my brother saw her as an equal partner. It turned out that she was wrong.
Their marriage has become shaken, and now he says that he will get a “thorn” if she divorces because his wife will take his money. It makes the situation more difficult.
I tried to talk to my brother. He accuses me of being on her side. They are in treatment, but it means so much that I can barely look at it now. How can I help my brother understand that she did a lot of work that made it possible for him to have his job? – Sister sees this clearly
Your dear sister: Leave your brother's lawyer and family law judge explain the facts of life for your brother. It is full of anger and greed now and does not think rationally. You will not win the dispute that you face with, so for your interest, you will back down. I can only present my sympathy with your sister.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
