Dear Abe: I got married to my husband for 30 years. Over the past five years, I noticed that it is a little. He lost a lot of weight. I discovered that he was smoking drugs. He faced this problem for years, and I thought we had overcome it. But now I get the impression that you may not be overcome ever.
My daughter gave me a follower of my birthday. I was placed in his car to see where he went, and showed that he went to a residential building and was there for about an hour. I do not know who lives in this building, and I was never there. I think he betrays me. I can't think about another reason that he will be in a residential building in a really bad area if there is nothing to keep there. When I asked him where he was, he said: “Why do you ask me a lot of questions?”
I know that my husband is lying to me. I am at the end and I do not know what to do. I know it will be really difficult to leave if this is what I chose to do, but I think I have no other option. When I suggested advising marriage, he refused. I told him that he needed to advise drugs. He said he has no problem. He clearly has a problem. I told him that he is greater than that. What do you think I should do? – An suspicious in Michigan
Dear suspicious: Before doing anything else, it is important to protect yourself. Talk to your doctor about verifying sexually transmitted diseases. Then tell your husband about the follower and ask him to explain the time he spends in this residential building. Was he with another woman? A drug dealer for him? (If a woman, is he planning to continue to see her?) Depending on the answers he provides to you and whether you can believe it, you may want to speak to a lawyer to determine how you want to follow.
Dear Abe: My 95 -year -old mother was in good health until recently. She is in an independent living facility and she is happy there. I am raising the main subscriptions to meet her medical needs while weakening her heart, and she is now under tilted care.
My sister, Jolie, who lives outside the state, decided to put a camera in my mother's house, follow and record it at night and night. Although my mother does not mind the camera, it makes me uncomfortable to watch and monitor constantly during her visit and help. Jolie gets angry if you cover the camera while I am there. When I remove the cap, I hear the camera grow around the room and focus on us. Am I wrong to want privacy during my visits with my mother? – Shy camera in Colorado
Dear camera shy: The goal of the camera is when your mother alone can watch her. If you are there, the camera should not be needed. I will assume that you told your sister that you do not want to monitor your visits, and she continues to do this anyway. Do not hesitate to cover it while you are there, but don't forget to discover it when you leave.
Dear Abe, written by Abigil van Burin, also known as Jin Phillips, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips. Call my dear Abby to http://www.dearabby.com or Po Box 69440, Los Angeles, California 90069.
