Dear Abe: When my ex -wife died recently, I left our children (in the twenties and thirties of life) a house in her name. My son has a good job. My daughter works periodically as a model. Its destructive loss is both. The house you left is not only in bad condition, but also needs repairs and division of areas and allowing updates.
I gain a good living and recently won personal injury issues. I have helped my children through their support during the past few months because their emotional loss took them out of the commission for a period of time. She contributed tens of thousands of dollars towards their homes, as well as helped in rent and living expenses.
My girlfriend, with whom I lived for many years, is now in the East, screaming at my face to spend what should be “future retirement funds”. She condemns me to support them, and not to make them “make it alone” and “how dare to think about it and not” we “. She was always upset and angry at any attention that gave them and accused me of” spoiling them “when she helped in the past.
I am angry that my girlfriend, who has never had children, can't understand my desire to help. I feel the moral commitment as their father to be for them, and I am lucky because I can do this. Isn't this the right thing to do as a father to help as much as possible? Is my girlfriend outside the line? This has damaged our relationship, and I am concerned that it may be completely out of bars. A good man in California
Dear good man: I do not know the intimate details of your financial situation, or the relationship that links you with your companion or to what degree that your generosity may affect your future. Of course, it is normal for parents who love to help their children. But tens of thousands of dollars is a lot of money. Because of the emotions concerned, the logical choice for advice on this topic is your CPA and your lawyer.
Dear Abe: I have a male friend (lawyer) married to a dermatologist. Every time this friend interacts with a medical provider, he is not satisfied and feels a rupture. He testifies that doctors are ordering unnecessary tests and intentionally ignoring. He does this loudly and frequently.
I am a retired medical professional and a consumer of health services myself, so I definitely realize that many parts of our health care system are chaos. I don't know how to stop his screaming. I try to change the topic, but almost every conversation is the same. – I am tired of listening
Dear fatigue: You are not hostage. The next time this friend raises the topic, tell him that you heard his complaints, there is nothing you can do about them, prefer to discuss something positive when you are together and Change the topic.
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